Are you looking to ignite some passion in your relationship? I know it can be tough when balancing the hustle and bustle of life to focus on sex in your relationship and it often gets pushed to the wayside in the midst of careers, kids, and responsibility.
I want to give you some simple ways you can flirt with your spouse, spice up your sex life, and help keep you reconnect all while bringing pleasure and joy into your marriage.
Physical affection
There is power in the human touch. Be spontaneous! Brush up against them, hold their hand, touch their neck, and rub their thigh. Oftentimes one spouse is waiting on the other to initiate this, they don’t want to bother the other or worry it could be a bad time. I say GO FOR IT. Touching each other will not only build intimacy but will keep you connected and grounded throughout daily life.
Unexpected Compliment
If you want to boost your spouse’s ego, compliment them unexpectedly. Yes, they know you find them attractive but find something specific and go the extra mile to really give them a perk in their day. For an added touch, catch them mid-sentence and they’ll be completely caught off guard.
Flirtatious texts
Texting has become the norm these days and since you’re doing it anyway, why not spice it up with a little flavor? Nothing is off-limits here. Whether you prefer mild compliments or naughty desires it’s sure to give your other half something to look forward to.
Sexy Playlist
Music will set the tone for the evening. But instead of choosing the predictable romantic tunes, switch it up and go for something more risque. Choose songs that cut to the chase and get down to the nitty-gritty. I’ll start you off here are 30 sultry tracks to add to your Spotify list:
When We – Tank
My Body – LSG
How Does It Feel – D’Angelo
Rock The Boat – Aaliyah
Shea Butter Baby – Ari Lennox, J. Cole
Knockin’ Boots – H-Town
Permission – Ro James
Anytime Anyplace – Janet Jackson
Red Light Special – TLC
Freek’N You – Jodeci
Partition – Beyonce
Can We – SWV
Adorn – Miguel
Pu$$y Fairy – Jhené Aiko
Morning – Teyana Taylor & Kehlani
Dangerous – Meek Mill
Freak Me – Silk
Motivation – Kelly Rowland & Lil’ Wayne
So Anxious – Ginuwine
Shh – Tevin Campbell
Say Yes – Floetry
Give It To Me Right – Melanie Fiona
Refill – Elle Varner
Body Party – Ciara
Til The Cops Come Knockin – Maxwell
Neighbors Know My Name – Trey Songz
Earned It – The Weeknd
Nice & Slow – Usher
Sex With Me – Rhianna
Play – Goapele
Love Notes
Everyone wants to feel loved, needed and wanted. Taking a few minutes to acknowledge your spouse can boost their mood and confidence. Try including a note in their lunch, a post-it on the window or better yet write a sexy message in lipstick on the bathroom mirror. It may sound cliché but they’ll love it!
Fun and Laughter
Laughter is literally the best medicine. It helps us cope with the stressors in life and has important physiological benefits. Marriages that have regular laughter are less likely to get burnout. So relax a little and have some good ole fashion fun. Encouraging a night out with friends shows your spouse that their happiness is important to you and gives them an opportunity for a change of scenery and a renewed sense of spirit.
Special Outfit
Wear something that’s outside the regular wardrobe. A new nightie to bed, a short skirt or dress, even some high heels can get your partner’s blood pumping. Guys are especially visual and since they’re thinking about sex often, trust me, they’ll notice. And because this isn’t only about you, while you’re out shopping for something new for you get something new for him too. Get something that fits his taste that you would love to see on him. He will love how you took the time to treat him to something special.
Try New Positions
Wow your partner by showing them you have a few new sexy tricks up your sleeve. Check out Cosmo’s 15 Advanced Sex Positions. They provide tastefully drawn images and give you step by step instruction to safely perform the moves with your partner.
Show Some Skin
Leave pants unbuttoned or loosen up the button on a shirt. Reveal a little with your bra or perhaps nothing underneath. Men and women enjoy seeing a little skin and the more natural it looks the hotter it is.
Sneak Into The Shower
Okay, so the shower isn’t always sexy when you’re fighting over the water but it adds variety and an element of surprise. Remember, the steamier the better.
Go Commando
This may be considered risqué for some but it’s so worth it! The next time you have dinner plans out or another engagement lose the undies. Once you’re there and settled in, whisper to your spouse that you aren’t wearing any. Seeing their eyes light up will build anticipation and set the mood for the rest of the evening.
Romance
A little romance can go a long way in a marriage. Taking some time to surprise your spouse and put something together like a special date night or a romantic dinner for two at home shows them how much you are committed to them and your marriage. So turn off your phones and encourage your spouse to relax and enjoy some one on one time.
What are some of your sexy ways to flirt with your spouse? Share with me (and all of us ) in the comments below.
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